“Hate”. When you search on Google the meaning of this word, you’re going to find – ‘feel intense dislike for’, or something along these lines. However when you think about it, or at least when I do, it resonates with much more than intense dislike. Mostly it reminds me of how illogical, confining to stereotypes, and unoriginal it is. It passes on, creating a hostile environment, harming the victims of hate, and also gravely harming yourself.
Hating makes the soul bitter, toxic, and negative to live with. It aids personal issues and traumas and masks a lack of compassion while helping with escapism. We are all born with the capacity for hatred and compassion, but it depends upon social and psychological learning and surroundings that we end up adapting to one.
One reason we hate is that we fear things that are different from us. The common denominator in most acts of hatred is fear, usually fear of different types of people or ideas. This is why hatred is most often directed towards people of different races, sexual orientation, religious background, or some other criterion. This ends up as mass hate, where there is a whole gigantic group of people all over the world who come together because of similar mentality and opinions and then promulgate hate over certain people of a particular categorization. This also relates to prejudices and discrimination.
Next, steps in fear of ourselves, or we can call it the psychological phenomenon of projection. According to the clinical psychologist Dana Harron, the things people hate about others are the things that they fear within themselves. Projection is not just a Freudian defense mechanism, it is a powerful tool for justifying aggression. Let’s say, you’re hating on Jack because you see he works hard at the gym and is very shredded, you take it as him trying to believe that anyone who does not work out is ugly and lazy. This chagrin is a protection mechanism veiling your own deeper body-image issues. You are insecure and do not want to face your issues, and hence you project hatred.
Generally, hatred is found to be filling a void within individuals because it distracts them from important tasks or the anxiety-provoking job of forming one’s independent identity. Therefore, they choose to hate and accept that as a personality trait.
All around us, we see the passing on of hate because that is engraved in our political and social histories. It was needed in primitive ages to conquer territories and to fight off enemy tribes. It was inculcated. But in modern times like these where violence does not have to feed war and hate is not a necessity for survival, it exists because it feeds our insecurities and makes us feel more complete as it wards off identity crises. However, spreading it and blindly accepting hate is on us. Being aware is what counts. Awareness regarding how it affects others, how much turmoil we are choosing to inflict, how many victims we are creating, and how we can definitely choose to feel compassion and learn empathy.
— Nish, Sauhard